A really bad habit. Always being late for practices and games.
There is a curious statistic that I collected in the last 10 years.
At practices, games, clinics or lessons, there are 3 precise categories of players, apart from their gender or age:
* those who are always there early.
* those who are always there just on time (which is already late!)
* those who are always late.
The incredible aspect is the fact that they are ALWAYS the same people.
Of course, the very young are depending on their parents so, apparently, it’s not their fault if they’re always late, but once adults, they will probably always be late.
And the curious thing is that, for years, they always have an excuse. A different one. I couldn’t find my shoes, the jersey, I forgot to set the alarm, the car didn’t start, until the best one: the traffic.
The ‘traffic’ is the one that I really like because it seems that all of us, instead of coming to the field using the same roads, with no traffic at all, we’re using a secret tunnel that connects our home to the field, or a helicopter picked up us at home and carried us there so, of course we’re on time!
I tried with honesty and detachment to understand why some people are always late, and I think that I got it.
Because I was one of them! So, maybe they can use the following to try to change a little.
Yes, to change. I’m really a dreamer because at 61 I still believe that people can change. It’s possible and it takes just a little effort and a little respect for ourselves and others.
Anyway, here’s what can be done.
For a certain category of people, (like I was a long time ago!!!) there is this rule: whatever the time of the appointment is, anytime before that time makes them on time and anytime after that, makes them late.
What does this mean? It means that if they have an appointment at 10:00am, at 9:45 they’re are still perfectly on time. And this is absolutely true if it takes 10 minutes to go there.
But if it takes 30 minutes, they are already VERY late. Unfortunately, this is not the way that they think, because they never consider how much time it takes to go there. They just consider that 9:45 is clearly before 10:00 so, apparently, they’re perfectly on time!
The curious aspect is that only at 10:01, they start to say to everybody: “O my God, we’re late, come on lets go, let’s go!” and they will never say that at 9:59!!
Please, be sincere with yourself, and if you recognize yourself in the above, don’t pretend that it’s not you.
Obviously, please feel free to continue like that. You’ll sleep well anyway and I’ll keep sleeping well anyway, too.
But, if instead of that, you would like to try to change a little, I can assure you that it can be done.
Because, as I said, I was one of you! I was always LATE!
So, I came out with this ‘simple’ solution and it worked.
Supposing that the appointment is at 10:00am, I spend just 30 seconds in thinking this:
* How much time does it take to go there? 30 minutes. So 10:00 becomes 9:30
* a little cushion in case something goes wrong. 5/10 minutes. So 9:30 becomes 9:25/9:20.
* I would like to be there 5 minutes early so 9:15.
But 9:15 is not the time to go out from home.
9:15 is the time in which everybody and everything should be in the car and go!!!
So, 9:15 is the time in which the car starts to go there!
If having everybody and everything in the car takes 15 minutes, 9:15 becomes 9:00.
Considering the above, please, please and please again, try to consider and try to understand that, if the above doesn’t happen, at 9:01 YOU’RE ALREADY LATE in order to be there at 10:00 (9:55)!
To do this calculation, take’s just 30 seconds. Don’t tell me that you don’t have 30 seconds to invest in order to became a better human being !!!!
I promise you that you’ll be very proud of yourself. I was. And all of us will love you enormously more.
Before concluding, just another fast hint.
Like I was, late people are also very distracted. They always go back in the house to:
* get the car key
* get the house key
* get the cell phone.
* get the wallet.
and the curious thing is that, when they realized that they have forgotten these 4 things, they don’t go back to the house just 1 time and pick up the 4 things.
They go back to the house 4 TIMES!!!
So, here the solution:
Get a cell phone case with a keychain. On that keychain, put the keys of the car and home. So:
* if you closed your home, AUTOMATICALLY you have the key of the car and the cell phone!
* If you drive your car, it means that you also have the house key and the cell-phone.
* If you have the cell-phone it means that you also have the car and home keys!!!
And, what about the wallet? When, after the day’s activity, you go back to your home, before doing anything else, go strait to connect the cell phone at the charger and, take out the wallet and put it to the side of the cell phone!
Just a few more words. As I said in the title, being late is a bad habit. Please, force yourselves to believe that to form bad habits or good habits, takes the same amount time.
A habit becomes like that by repeating over and over the same things. So, if you repeat good things just for a few days instead of bad things, they will become habits too.
Posted on 14 Apr 2010 by coachgianni